Maybe I can post once a month. At least, that's what I hope. I don't want to let the blog go. Is that silly? Anyway, things are still super-busy for me these days. I won't bore you with those details, but I am working more hours than I ever did in my life. At least most of my work is writing, so I can't complain. Ya know?
I got switched tonight. And unfairly, I think. Roger often likes to tease me, and he was in rare form tonight, goosing me mercilessly. For those of you who don't know what goosing is (I didn't until Roger), it's when he does this weird tickling/squeezing thing with his fingers on sensitive parts of my body that feels AWFUL. It makes me squeal, but not in a good way. I hate it.
But Roger likes to do it, and I thought I would show him what it feels like. As we were arriving home, and he was fumbling with his keys, I goosed him. We live in the most deserted wooded property now, so everything was pitch black out there. BY MISTAKE, I missed his ticklish sides and got him in the face. So he got furious and got a switch.
Is this fair? It was my first goosing, after all, and mistakes should be expected. And the switch? We all know how much I despise it. I didn't hurt him on purpose, you know? Not fair. And he started the whole goosing thing, so he should be switched, too, but we don't do that and anyway he doesn't agree with me. He's in the living room watching a movie and I'm in here upset. And no, talking to him won't help. I also broke the switch when he was turning me over, so I got it pretty badly. At least 100 times. NOT FAIR. The welts. They hurt.
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So nice to hear from you again, Zelda, honey.
Maybe you need to re-read or change, what you have written down the side of this post...about Roger being the most morally centred person etc...? LOL. I am sure he would not have done this unless he truly felt he should? Maybe your attitude provoked it? See my comment on the next post; (LOL, I commented there first!)
I agree it SUCKS to be punished for a genuine mistake. Had you been pushing your luck all evening, by any chance? Only you and he know in your hearts if it were truly unfair. Could you not have used the safeword to stop it? Hugs, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Zelda, I am sorry this happened to you and that you are so upset about things. As an outsider looking in it does seem unfair but I honestly don't know for sure how he sees things. I do have a couple of questions and I am not sure you have the answer but perhaps they will help you spark a conversation with him at a less heated time.
Does he feel you intentionally hurt him? Does he understand and accept that you do not like being goosed? Is he willing to stop doing it to you based solely on the fact that you do not like being goosed? Does he expect you to submit to it because it is something he likes to do and as the submissive partner you must accept his decision? Do you guys have any provisions for not being spanked in anger? Perhaps a time-out so that each partner can calm down before progressing to the next stage? Does he feel 100 strikes with a switch fit the crime? Lingering painful welts over an accident seem excessive but I am not privy to your agreement as a couple. I know that Husbands make mistakes even within DD. If you feel he has wronged you you will not be doing yourself, him or your relationship any favors by not addressing this issue with him. If you do not feel you can speak to him, perhaps you can print these postings and comments and ask him to read them. Good Luck
Your husband is abusive. His punishments are extremely excessive and don't fit the crime. I read the one where you spanked you for complaining about the fan. He is completely insane and so are you for excusing him and believing him to be "fair" at all. Please seek help. You should call 911 next time he crosses the line.
Adding punishments because you are terrified, because you scream, or because it is so painful that you move only make him a sicko sadist. Learning to "control yourself" is not a lesson necessitating a whipping.
I fear for the two of you if you should ever have children. His temper and his inability to accept normal human imperfections is a recipe for child abuse. He already abuses you and you make excuses for him. I can tell you would do the same once you have children. I am thankful that you appear to be infertile.
He cannot expect his wife to be perfect. He certainly isn't. He shouldn't whip you for every single mistake you ever make. It's incredibly inhumane treatment.
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